7 Ways to Say ‘No’

Everyone knows that being too assertive is no good. But being too shy can also cause some difficulties. In a present day world confident people get better positions and communicate more successfully. The age when women had to be shy, modest and silent passed long ago. But what to do if shyness is your natural characteristic? Though it’s not a negative peculiarity shyness can make you stay in the shadow of your friends and colleagues. Avoiding new contacts can prevent you from doing your best at work and showing your skills.

Anyway it is easier to overcome the natural shyness than cope with assertiveness. So what are the advantages of being shy? First of all you will for sure have less enemies. You may avoid some unpleasant situations just because you’re too shy to say a word.

Now let us consider all the disadvantages. Other people may use your inability to reject them. They probably will be grateful to you, but will you be grateful to yourself? Try to say a firm “no” for a couple of times and you’ll see that it doesn’t require too much effort. Gradually you will understand that a polite rejection is not a difficult thing to do. Don’t dwell on the thought that other people to be upset. Saying “no” is quite normal and most of the people take rejections easy. If you still find it difficult try to find the adequate reason which will be an obstacle for saying “yes”.